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Published Date: 18 July 2008
PARENTS in Britain are the most protective in the world, not letting their children roam much further than their front gardens, a report revealed yesterday.
Researchers found that a fifth of mothers in the UK wanted to supervise their child's every move, not allowing them far from home on their own.

But experts said that by being over-protective, parents could be damaging their children and depriving
them of the carefree upbringing young people enjoyed in the past.

The research compared studies carried out on parental attitudes to children's freedom in ten countries around the world.

In the UK, 19 per cent of mothers said they wanted to supervise their children's activities. This was despite the fact that 64 per cent of parents believed that children were deprived of childhood.

Compared with the UK, other countries had more relaxed attitudes to children playing unsupervised. In Argentina 18 per cent of mothers said they wanted to watch over what their children were doing, followed by the United States (15 per cent), South Africa (14 per cent), France (10 per cent), China (8 per cent), Brazil (7 per cent), Thailand (6 per cent) Turkey (5 per cent), and India (4 per cent).

Yale researchers Dr Jerome and Dorothy Singer also looked at research showing how far children were allowed to roam from home on their own.

They pointed to research by the Children's Society which found that in 1970 the average UK nine-year-old was free to wander 919 yards – a ten-minute walk – from home. By 1997, that figure was 316 yards, and by 2007, the boundary had moved to just outside the front gate – classed as a no-minute walk.

Not allowing children to indulge in unstructured "free play" could harm their ability to form social relationships and hamper their chances of boosting creativity, the report said.

Kris Murrin, a child behavioural expert, said: "If we can increase play in childhood years, we can help increase emotional development and social skills needed for later on in life. In turn, this will provide reassurance of a safe environment for our future generation to grow up in. Children need to be encouraged to behave like children and most importantly need time to explore and play in order to have formative experiences."

Sue Palmer, Edinburgh-based education expert and author of Toxic Childhood, said children not being given the freedom to play outside alone was "one of the most worrying factors of modern life".

"The potential effects of over-protecting our children are disastrous," she said.

"They need to develop independence during their childhood. That means developing social skills, confidence, resilience and being able to cope with what life throws at you."

Ms Palmer said that while she understood parents' concerns, they needed to allow their children to gain independence. "Parents need to look at how they can help children deal with potential dangers, such as from traffic or from strangers."

How breast feeding triggers a bond with babies

THE importance of a mother bonding with her baby cannot be overstated and breast-feeding is often a key to making that crucial link.

Now scientists have identified exactly how the process of breast-feeding triggers a surge of "trust hormones" in the mother's brain, making her feel at one with her new child.

The hormone oxytocin has long been known to cause milk to be released from the mammary glands when triggered by a suckling infant.

The hormone is also linked to trust and love in both animals and humans.

But it has not been known until now how breast-feeding triggers the prolonged wave of oxytocin needed to keep the milk flowing.

Researchers from Warwick University found that in response to suckling, nerve cells start to release oxytocin from their endings and elsewhere in the cells.

The finding was unexpected because usually the parts of the cell involved in this process receive information from the brain, rather than transmit it.

The result is a swarm of what researchers described as "oxytocin factories", producing bursts of the hormone at roughly five-minute intervals.

Professor Jianfeng Feng said: "We knew that these pulses arise because, during suckling, oxytocin neurons fire together in dramatic synchronised bursts.

"But exactly how these bursts arise has been a major problem that has until now eluded explanation."

Analysis - Frightened society is preventing youngsters growing up

CHILDREN in the past were given much more freedom than they are now.

They were allowed out to play on their own, often roaming quite far from home, playing ball games and having a good time.

Now there are several factors that mean this is far less likely to happen.

We live in a much more overtly unsafe and insecure society where rates of violent crimes and crimes against children are high.

As a result parents are reluctant to release their children into danger.

Traffic is also much heavier, with a much higher risk of children being knocked down than they are of being abducted.

On top of this, children are much more attached to their computers than in previous years.

They would rather sit and play a game than mix with each other. Whereas people used to go out and play a game of golf or tennis, they now play it on the computer from their sofa.

There are physical, psychological and social implications from this type of lifestyle that are damaging to our children. They are getting less exercise, less fresh air and are just not getting out and enjoying being outside. We gain a vast amount healthwise from being in the great outdoors.

The psycho-social factors affecting children include the fact they are not mixing with each other so their language is suffering.

Also. they are not getting the experience of challenging each other's thoughts and they are not getting experience in creativity such as playing imaginary games. These games help prepare them for adult roles.

They are also not getting the chance to bounce ideas off each other.

As a society, we are becoming much more recluse-like in our homes. Children are now having more difficulties adapting to leaving home. The age that children are leaving their parents is much greater than it used to be.

Because children are now staying at home longer they are not taking on the role of adult as quickly and easily as they used to. They are not taking on the independent role and so they are struggling with maturing into grown-ups.

• Dr Andrina McCormack is a chartered psychologist based in the East of Scotland








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  • Last Updated: 17 July 2008 9:27 PM
  • Source: The Scotsman
  • Location: Edinburgh
 
1

Charles Linskaill,

Edinburgh 18/07/2008 00:19:16

"UK parents most protective in the world"

Is it any wonder,?

NO!

Mind you, the 'Press Call'..."11year olds getting Drunk"?

So what are we really saying,?

(and Madeline,?)

Is it really better in other countries,?
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Charles Linskaill,

Edinburgh 18/07/2008 00:48:01

Robin Banks ~2,

You can retrieve removed comments in Google, this takes a little effort though, and must be done about 24hours after the 'comment' was removed.

My input on this article, is for thought, to which you went a little further, I see no need for removal, its only,..

'Point of Facts'
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Scullion,

Canada 18/07/2008 01:40:34
I must admit that I'm one of these types. I know its wrong but I can't help it-and this from someone who, as a boy, fell into every body of water from Richmond Park pond to the Clyde (lucky you could practically walk on it) to Lake Ontario in the middle of winter when he was growing up and defied my parents rantings and beltings when pulled out.
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indune1,

Canada 18/07/2008 01:49:04

And your point would be?

Other than your parents could have done us all a favour by being even less attentive.

3 - Charles - you been to the boozer?

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Charles Linskaill,

Edinburgh 18/07/2008 02:10:18

indune1 ~5,

NO! I have NOT, "been to the boozer"!

I only speak Truths!

It shows you either don't understand, or subconsciously want to block, things you are programmed, to dismiss, in this case,..

'Reality'!
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indune1,

Canada 18/07/2008 03:16:00

Calm down old son.

I was only questioning your presentation of the so-called facts.

And you sir, must be one of the annointed ones, since you only speak "Truths".

Also, "reality" my friend, is as elusive as the truth.
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Fanling,

Switzerland 18/07/2008 03:32:33
We wandered the countryside for miles as children, oblivious to fear. Climbed trees, rocks and sea cliffs and often fell. Never to tell the parents of injuries from forbidden places. Played footie in the streets until dark. Total safety. No worries of molesters or other ne'er-do-wells. Great and natural childhood. What a PC-scared neurotic society today's Scotland and UK is.
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meltonmark,

Kent 18/07/2008 04:23:07
And how was this 'research' conducted? On what population sample and size? It sounds like utter rubbish to me. Everywhere I look, there are gangs of youth - and younger - hanging around in places they ought not to be, completely devoid of any parental supervision.
The article also suggests comparative 'research' was conducted in South Africa. Really? On which farm? Most children I know there [White children anyway] are locked away 24/7 behind 10' walls and electric security fences.
'Research' such as this really tick me off. It nearly always serves-up 'made to measure' results, commissioned and paid for by an organisation seeking a specific outcome.
Don't believe a word of it.
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Exiled in Cape Town,

Cape Town, South Africa 18/07/2008 06:36:18
#9,
I totally agree. I live in Cape Town & I do NOT let my 7yo daughter out of my sight unless she is in school. I have walls, electric gates, electric fence & alarm and don't let her outside unless I am with her. She is amazed when she sees any children alone in the street. How I wish I could take her back to Scotland and even let her play in my front garden. I know it is not good for her, but I would rather that than have her raped, used for withcraft medicine (muti). Last week burglars pistol whipped a 3yo child after shooting his dad dead and putting 3 bullets into his mum. Research / statistics can always be made to say EXACTLY what the sponsors of the project want.
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fife runner,

18/07/2008 07:12:27
might also mean, parents getting off their butts and walking a bit or playing with their kids.
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eric,

Lothian 18/07/2008 08:20:59
True.I told a parent her son had sprayed grafitti all over a tree trunk.She said it was lovely and spat on me!
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Boy Wonder,

18/07/2008 08:58:46
I'm with Dave from Barra #13 on this one. With little real news to print, the British Media have turned on their own country and rubbished us so much, they've become a byword in other countries for bad reporting.

The red tops especially are a gang of vicious in-fighters who try to outdo each other in painting pictures of a sick society that has no cure! And the Hootsmon (with its sister paper the EEN) is just as guilty of that at times!

Maybe times will change things ... but as for now, I can't see it!

#1 Chuckles, do us all a favour and go to bed at night! The DYW would no doubt prefer you to be tucked up with her, rather than you looking foolish with your 'truths'!
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Upbeat,

18/07/2008 09:37:25
This is an impossible balance to survey with any accuracy. Where, for example, in the survey were the rampant lives of British inner city youth reflected in the figures ? If these louts really only terrorise the neighbourhoods around their own doorsteps I would be most surprised.

But I agree with Dave, the press and the police along with H&S dogooders have bred a sense of powerlessness and fear in the whole of society. This has become self fulfilling. With Fewer people on the streets the fear of isolation and vunerability grows. When even close neighbours no longer know each other, each climbing from doorstep to car and returning, is it a wonder that parents no longer understand who they can trust ?

The Dutch have resolved this by creating "woonerfs". These are village type environments within larger cities, where pedestrians have priority, and from which there are a few exit roads and paths into the wider community. Children grow up knowing each other and playing together, as their grandparents would have done. Probably the solution to this social reverse lies in urban design, then attitudes would change .

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18/07/2008 09:50:23
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18/07/2008 09:51:29
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Charles Linskaill,

Edinburgh 18/07/2008 12:29:54

Boy Wonder ~14,

The 'Grump' today are we?, or another one not wanting to here the "Truth"?

'Press Call' as in #1, if we are soo sacred to let our children out, why are they "out" getting drunk, this is constantly in our papers is it not?

'Girls name' as in #1, snatched abroad! is it really safer anywhere else?

Spelling it out for you Boy Wonder, has this helped ?
Gods Sake!, between you and some others, its like talking to a bunch of 2year olds and thats the,........

..........."TRUTH"!.........
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Charles Linskaill,

Edinburgh 18/07/2008 12:34:26
Error.....(above post)
Boy Wonder re @#13 and not ~14
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TimW1234,

Ottawa, Canada 18/07/2008 13:33:53
Horrible Cankers

You were a right proper young Lol*ta when you were many, many, many, many, MANY years younger.

But it is unfortunate that you had to endure these perv*rts - and it is just not young girls who are accosted and worse. Young boys are also at risk.

It's a sick, sick world out there.
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18/07/2008 14:28:04
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TimW1234,

Ottawa, Canada 18/07/2008 15:18:54
Horrible Cankers

MY GOD! MEIN GOTTE! You an ex-copper?!?!!?

I had better behave myself from now on.

How utterly boring - to behave oneself, that is.

Thanks A LOT, ex-copper HC.

As for the "Dance of the Seven Veils" we were watching Karl Bohm's classic DVD of it with Canadian Teresa Stratas and one of my dipsomaniacal female acquaintances decided to mimic what was happening on the telly.

She is over 75 and it was NOT a pleasant performance to view. We stopped her midway and said that we got the "gist" of the dance and she did not have to take off all seven layers of her bloomers.
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John Cameron,

Broughty Ferry 18/07/2008 15:23:53
The only thing the Health and Safety Gestapo has achieved by all this hysteria (apart from terrifying parents) is completely wreck all the youth programmes of the churches. Well done!! I am sure they are SO much safer drinking Buckfast at street corners than being in the Scout Hall.
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Captain Flint,

Edinburgh 18/07/2008 16:45:12
Dave from Barra is bang on here. You're no more likely to be abducted by a stranger in 2008 than you were in 1958 or 1908. But the way the flippin' media goes on about it, you'd think there was a paedophile behind every other lamppost.

The result is that we've got a generation of paranoid parents bringing up another generation of paranoid children. It's an absolute tragedy.

And now the same media interests who have whipped up this hysteria are now beginning to report the damage done by overprotective parents. Do you think that any of these journalists ever stops to consider the untold damage that they've done?
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A Friend of Fernando Poo,

18/07/2008 18:56:57
When we were primary school age we'd walk or cycle to hills or towns a dozen miles away and be gone for the day. We'd walk on bridge parapets, climb cliffs, play in rivers and even run around on the ice on the rivers in the winter. Then there were building sites.

We'd play tig clambering around on half-built roofs. I can remember running on joists before floors had been put in and thought little of climbing up and down drainpipes to and from roofs.

It's not that there weren't any pederasts, but we knew we couldn't get into strangers' cars and so on. The only people I've ever known who were molested as kids were abused by relatives or by friends of their parents, and the stats indicate that it's in people's homes rather than outside where that particular danger lies.

I feel very sorry for the kids of today who are effectively jailed by the Paedophile Paranoia of their parents. I think Barra Dave has the right of it: the media have fomented and nurtured the disease and it's a tragedy that a whole generation are being protected into social death.
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Media 1,

cape town 18/07/2008 18:57:39
Im not sure these studies are worth the paper they are written on, because I can assure that our kids here are under constant surveillance!
Where Britain falls short is its approach to schooling. I was blown away by the lack of respect shown by kids when I lived there for 5 years straight. Even now as I spend a few months a year there, I am blown away by the way that kids are permitted to attend school without a proper uniform, polished shoes, no make up, properly cut hair, neat and tiday appearances, strict rules about timing, respect for teachers and respect for school property. I am always shocked by the cursing that takes place on the busses and in the streets or in the queues outside the chip shops at lunch time. And it all stems from the lack of leadership by parents and the education departments.
British kids need a good shake up and it needs to happen soon. Maybe the only way of recovering is to bring back conscription and make it compulsory for boys and girls. Drastic measures are needed for out of cotrol situations.
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Media 1,

cape town 18/07/2008 19:13:32
Captain Flint

I am not so sure about that statistic.
I would imagine that kids in 1958 didnt stand on street corners and drink copious amounts of alcohol. I would imagine they got the belt when they spoke crassly to their parents and their teachers. I would imagine that kids back then didnt curse as they passed elder in the street.
I could be wrong, but I imagine nowadays things are not as safe as they once were.
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TimW1234,

Ottawa, Canada 18/07/2008 19:21:08
Horrible Cankers

In your heyday as a copper, there must have been some very "CLOSE ENCOUNTERS" with suspects that involved handcuffs, restraints, whips, chains, physical restraint, heavy-breathing, wrestingling to ground, grunts and groans, etc.?

Much like your current private life? Oui ou non, cherie?
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JG,

Fife 18/07/2008 19:34:33
#28 TimW1234
Should you not go have a yourself a wee, cold shower? That imagination of yours is off in a direction it's probably better not to go in!!
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Jock Tamson,

Scotland, Caledonia, Alba 18/07/2008 20:12:22
Oh dear, Media1
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Jock Tamson,

Scotland, Caledonia, Alba 18/07/2008 20:13:25
The situation in South Efrica is a tad different to here.
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Media 1,

cape town 18/07/2008 20:20:59
Yes it is, which is why your bringing it up was stupid.

Scotland must be governed by London,end of story.
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Sports for Edinburgh,

18/07/2008 20:50:52
I see the current method of parenting (as in ‘I will be with you every step of the way) the most natural thing in the world – after all, if you are not watching your child they will be abducted, raped by a paedo, or hit by a car... This is what we are told by the media and “parenting experts”. It’s not the case. Now, Im not saying it is a safe world out there, but it is nowhere near as dangerous as we are told.
I remember, as a child, being out all day and coming home if I was hungry. I was gradually given more freedom, explained ‘the rules’ and knew if I broke them... I would be grounded. Through this I made very close friends, learnt about responsibility and trust. You see the issues caused by the lack of trust and self awareness in kids when they are suddenly given ‘free reign’ – the go to the park and get bladdered... at a stupidly young age or do other stupid things.

With the kids I work with – you can see the lack of basic social skills, and self awareness – something that I grew up learning.
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Kitti Kat,

PA 18/07/2008 21:02:56
Unfortunately, the world has changed and now most of us are over-protective where our kids are concerned. Gone are the days when they could be out without mom or dad keeping a vigilent watch. I wish my kids could have had the life I did as a kid. We could get on our bikes or roller skates, etc. and go blocks away from home to the park and play all day. No-one worried that we wouldn't be home in the same way we left. Too bad that things have changed and we really must watch ouir kids more than in the past.
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Sports for Edinburgh,

18/07/2008 21:07:02
#34 - I mean no offence when I ask, but you stated "we realy must watch our kids more than in the past" - why? The world is no more dangerous, thigs are just sensationalised by the media. Do you not feel that keeping a constant eye on our kids causes more harm than allowing them to go to the park alone?

I am training to be a primary school teacher, and the social skills (and in some cases, academic ability) is night and day between the kids who are given more freedom than those who are not?
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18/07/2008 22:58:35
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Charles Linskaill,

Edinburgh 19/07/2008 00:55:31

Should keep mouth shut, ..'HUH',?

comment #2, totally gone!

First time Ive seen that.

Now I appear to be Two!

 

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