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Published Date: 19 June 2009
A CHURCH of Scotland minister has appealed to mourners not to leave "disconcerting" tributes, such as wind chimes, at gravesides.
And the Rev Graeme Longmuir said the use of solar lights made the burial ground look like the "Blackpool illuminations".

Mr Longmuir yesterday praised Aberdeenshire Council's controversial decision made in February last year to outlaw graveside me
mentoes in its cemeteries. Councillors approved proposals to ban completely any tributes that move or emit noise or light in the 212 burial grounds.

The council began sending letters three months ago to lair owners who were flouting the rules, giving them six weeks to remove any items that did not meet the new criteria.

Susan Bendel, whose eight-year-old son, Rhys, is buried in Inverurie cemetery, condemned the council earlier this week for ordering her to remove solar lights, a small football figurine and shrubs from his grave, or face having them taken away.

But yesterday Mr Longmuir said he had been forced to conduct burial services at the graveyard while battling against a chorus of wind chimes and whirling plastic decorations.

And he said the use of solar lighting at graves throughout the cemetery had been threatening to turn the burial ground into Inverurie's answer to the "Blackpool illuminations".

Mr Longmuir, who is in charge of St Andrew's Parish Church, said removal of the graveside tributes would allow funeral services to be conducted with the dignity they deserved and allow mourners to grieve in peace.

He said: "It has been quite a serious problem for some time. And, of course, it is not a problem confined to the cemetery here in Inverurie.

"We are dealing with an extremely sensitive issue, and I have buried quite a lot of the folk in that cemetery and know all the families.

"I understand the sentiment of these things," said the minister. "We have all lost folk that we love dearly, and we all remember them.

"It's just that if you are standing next to graves with these plastic footballers kicking their legs and windmills going round, it's a bit much.

"And there were the solar lights, which came on at night – it was quite disconcerting for a number of folk driving into the town past the cemetery and seeing these lights."

Asked if he had received complaints from grieving families about the disruption being caused to solemn burial services, he replied: "Not directly and not on the occasion.

"But I was certainly conscious of this noise going on in the background while conducting services.

"And there were occasions when I arrived at a grave and saw those things nearby, and I would walk across and lay them flat on the ground." he said. "They cause great offence."

Mr Longmuir also revealed that earlier this week he had been forced to remove temporarily ten helium balloons bearing the message "Happy Birthday" from a grave at the cemetery, close to where he was due to conduct a burial service.

A spokesman for Aberdeenshire Council said yesterday: "While (the council] understands this is a sensitive issue, it is important the ornamentation of lairs throughout Aberdeenshire is dealt with consistently."

Where possible, we have written to lair holders to request the removal or rearrangement of certain lair ornamentation, which breaches the new rules."





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  • Last Updated: 19 June 2009 12:03 AM
  • Source: The Scotsman
  • Location: Edinburgh
  • Related Topics: Church of Scotland
 
1

Jock's Away,

Africa 19/06/2009 05:37:48
The Rev Longmuir, needs to lighten up. A trip to Croatia at All Staints time will show All burial places lit up, a beautiful & moving experience. another aspect of the multicultural society and comsumerism an un foreseen cons!!
A bit of human empathy and visible understanding would go further than the heavy hand of official indifference "YOU MUST OBEY OUR RULE." When clearing away the wilted wreathes, the other items could be removed at the same time a bin for bio waste and one for plastic, difficult??
Ever thought why the Churches are empty?? Tolerance where are you??
2

Pocket Dictionary,

19/06/2009 06:00:00
No ban on beer cans being left on graves this Father's Day then? That encourages kids to go around cemeteries getting drunk on these so-called Father's Day presents.
3

Roy,

19/06/2009 08:06:41
I for one find the sound of windchimes in a cemetery soothing.
4

Unimpressed one,

19/06/2009 08:15:39
This just about sums up the Church of Scotland - lost in the 18th century.
5

sam the god,

19/06/2009 08:23:34
it is about time they stopped ringing thier bells on a sunday it is very annoying
6

Gdgy,

19/06/2009 08:26:13
I couldn't care less what people put on their relative's graves...it is none of my business...and it is none of the kirk's business...maybe they could find something more important to do...no cancer sufferers to minister, no unemployed to help....??
7

Navvy,

19/06/2009 08:33:03
I agree, it is most disconcerting.

All Saints is not all year - our ancestors buried such things with their dead let us do that and then stick with flowers
8

Andrew Morton,

Berkshire 19/06/2009 09:08:19
Don't the greiving relatives pay for the plot and the headstone? Is it not effectively thier property?
9

Alternative (High-Octane) Fuel Head,

Edinburgh 19/06/2009 10:41:11
I think the key here is to get people to have a bit of taste rather than yet another mindless ban.
10

PJ1970,

Edinburgh 19/06/2009 15:01:58
I think that you will find, on better investigation, that placing toys and ornaments on the grave breaches the rules you sign up to when purchasing the plot.

You do not OWN the plot of ground. Just the right of burial or the right to ertect a monument, WITHIN THE RULES OF THE BURIAL AUTHORITY!!!!!!

The lights and toys are just an invitation to vandals. They make grasscutting a nightmare and they annoy the large numbers of people who do respect the rules.

It is the dianafication inflicted by nuliebour that prevents action being taken. Witness this article. The minority imposing their personal habits on the majority. Revolting.
11

PJ1970,

Edinburgh 19/06/2009 15:03:10
Also the endless spread of toys and stuff is hardly allowing the bereaved to get over their loss.

People die the end. Stop being so useless about it.
12

Geomac 1,

Scotland 19/06/2009 16:05:22
Yea!!! Another ban. Soon it will be easier to list what we can do as opposed to what is banned in this country.
13

Pilrig,

Livingston 19/06/2009 17:15:34
10 - "they annoy the large number of people who respect the rules"
I suppose you've done a survey ?

If I was ill in hosptal and needed a chaplain, I hope to God it wouldn't be a whited sepulchre like the Rev Longmuir.
14

Voldemort,

Edinburgh 19/06/2009 20:10:42
Banning something in Scotland !! -- Surely not !!

15

maboza,

U.S.A 20/06/2009 23:56:37
The Rev Longmuir needs to take a laxative..and loosen up!
Here is a case of tradition and irrelevant Presbyterianism getting in the way of compassion. Didn't Jesus come to bind up the brokenhearted? Isn't the Jesus agenda about comforting the distressed and the broken? So what's the big deal about windchimes,toys and solar lights?
# 4...spot on if only the Church of Scotland was stuck in the First Century instead of the 18th!

 

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